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1/2/09

We could be happy, it's just that we need to let go of our pasts and try to start over, we can't live with our ex's in our heads and compare each other to them constantly, that's insane.

I know [my now ex] probably loves his ex still, and I understand that, I mean he had a long relationship, and it seems like it was a good one too.  I would be hung up myself if it were me. It happens to all of us. But the truth is that until we realize that we can't go around comparing our ex's to whoever we are dating, it wont go well.  I understand if he/she was better, prettier, sexier, happier, more caring, more fun, etc. But if you don't get to really know someone how can you say you gave them a chance? How do you know they're not as perfect or even better?  When will you stop making the comparisons? When it's too late? Or you just won't stop and will just keep making that same mistake over and over again? 

The saddest thing is that I know how it feels, I know exactly how it feels. When I was broken hearted, I thought I could never meet anyone who could make me feel the way my ex made me feel. I thought that every other guy was just a loser compared to him, I wouldn't even give anyone a chance because I thought that the person that was right for me, I wasn't right for.  I felt like I would never meet anyone as funny, talkative, friendly,  charismatic, accomplished or that made me feel so good to be around. He meant the world to me and when I had to let go it was tough.

Even if it was just a one way street, where only one person really loved and the other one just enjoyed being loved. You will always  remember it no matter how bitter the end was.  Because we will never forget that THAT person was the one that made us feel something special for the first  time. It was someone who you built memories with, hoping to stay together for longer, and some people hope it lasts forever.

We just have to live in the present, learn from the past and hope for the future. Because we can only shape our futures by living in the present and learning from the past...